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At Roots and Wings Therapies we believe all behavior is communication and that kids do well then they have the regulatory and relational resources and an environment that supports them. When we address a behavior, 'misbehavior,' or 'unwanted behavior' we urge families to consider their regulatory state, environment, and expectations throughout the day. Connect before you correct, regulate and relate before reasoning. Ensure both you and your child are calm before you reason with your child. We believe that 'bad' behaviors are not typically willful and may not change with rewards, punishment, or consequences if the child isn't regulated to behave 'appropriately.' Using rewards, punishment, or consequences often miss what is driving the behavior. With this in mind, understand that these videos do discuss some strategies and techniques to help deal with behaviors, but they might not shape lasting behavioral change for most children. Please come talk to our therapists for more specific treatment plans!
Transitions, the process or period of changing from one place, activity or arousal/emotional state to another. This can be a difficult time for some kiddos due to the unpredictability and unfamiliarity of the situation or due to challenges with executive functioning that make it difficult to shift before a determined or perceived “end”. When transitioning it is important to maintain a predictable routine, prepare your child for the change, and recognize and validate the emotions they are experiencing. In this video we will discuss different techniques and strategies that can be implemented in and out of the home to allow for smoother transitions. As you implement these changes understand that when transitioning from screen time these techniques may not be effective. Screens provide more stimulation and possibly more excitement, especially for middle elementary children, which might require more creative transition techniques than are discussed in this video. With children of elementary age and older it may be beneficial to discuss not only the drawbacks of technology and their design to keep us seeking more and stay looped in, but also discuss the “time budgets” within the day so you can work together to determine what an appropriate amount of time spent on technology could be. With this conversation you may be able to come up with an appropriate compromise for your child and empower them to understand drawbacks, find alternate activities that are also rewarding and begin to build self-monitoring with support.
The American Occupational Therapy Association defines rest and sleep as 1 of 7 occupations that humans participate in on a daily basis. Meaning that rest and sleep play a vital role in the health and well-being of each and every one of us. When we sleep it is our body's way of resting and recovering from the previous day's activities. If the sleep cycle is disrupted or doesn’t occur, then we can see changes in overall health both in the present and future. In the present we can observe changes in mood, energy levels, and daily behavior as disruption in sleep or sleep deprivation can affect our executive functioning and sensory regulation. In this video we will discuss techniques you can use to increase the quality and duration of your child’s sleep and what to do when a child’s sleep is disrupted. If your child has difficulties with sleep to wake in the morning rather than falling and staying asleep, please reach out and we can provide strategies for your child when waking up in the morning.
Many of us have heard a child say “no” when asked to complete a task, been ignored by a child when they don’t want to do what they are asked, or even had a child throw a tantrum when they do not get what they want. These behaviors can be addressed in many ways and sometimes even avoided by transition techniques addressed in our transition video or by praising your child for the positive behaviors. In this video you will hear the terms ‘flipped their lid’ or ‘red zone.’ When a child has ‘flipped their lid’ it means that they are functioning from an emotional level. This is also the area of the brain where your fight, flight, or freeze response is. The ‘red zone’ refers to a child who is very angry and the only thing that will calm them down is time and space. As you will notice, both when the child has flipped their lid or when they are in the red zone, they are functioning from the emotional parts of the brain. For more information on flipping your lid, please check out our helpful links to access a short video on the concept.
Time outs such as sending a child to their room when misbehaving, is a common technique used by parents. Strategies such as time out intend to help us manage children’s behavior but the true purpose and meaning of discipline is to teach, and a child distressed by the separation, shame and punishment of being sent to an enclosed room, is not likely learning from the experience, especially when often misbehavior stems from dysregulation. Kids do well when they have the regulation, support, and environmental fit allowing them to learn from a situation. I challenge you to try a “Think it Over Place” instead. This technique involves sending your child to a designated area near the family with little distractions. This allows the child to think about their behavior and/or actions with a sense of felt safety and coregulation with the caregiver. Although this is a great strategy and will help some children, there are some children who prefer to be left alone. In this situation it is okay to let your child go to their room while remaining outside the door and allowing them to approach you when they are ready. This still provides the felt safety while also validating and supporting the child’s social emotional needs.
Self-regulation is a person’s ability to manage and control arousal state, behaviors, emotions, and actions. This means that a child is showing the appropriate behavior for the situation they are in and are able to move fluidly from one state to another depending on the situation's demands. To develop self-regulation, the child first needs to experience co-regulation. Co-regulation is when two people come together, such as a caregiver and child, and one helps the other meet their body’s needsby using their own calm nervous system. In this video we will talk about co-regulation, how it leads to self-regulation, and activities that can be used to reach a calm or alerted state.
Kranowitz, C. S. (2022). The out-of-sync child: Recognizing and coping with sensory processing differences. (3rd edition). Penguin Publishing Group.
Purvis, K. B., Cross, D. R., & Sunshine, W. L. (2007). The connected child: Bring hope and healing to your adoptive family. McGraw Hill LLC.
Purvis, K. B. & Qualls, L. C. (2020). The connected parent: Real life strategies for building trust and attachment. Harvest House Publishers.
Smith, M. L. (2021). The connected therapist: Relating through the senses. Marti Smith Seminars.
Siegel, D. J. & Bryson, T. P. (2012). The whole-brain child: 12 revolutionary strategies to nurture your child’s developing mind. Random House Publishing Group.
A secure relationship between caregiver and child involves four key components: structure, engagement, nurture, and challenge. Structure involves organization, consistency, and regulation while showing your child that you are the clear leader. Engagement is about being in-tune and connected with your child while encouraging and supporting your child in a playful loving way. Nurture is based on providing soothing, calm support in the ‘now moments’ with your child while showing that they are important, valued, and loved. Lastly, challenge involves you as the parent proving the ‘just right’ challenge for your child while providing a sense of competency and mastery. All four components work hand in hand with each other and as one improves, so will the others. As you begin to feel more confident in reading your child and in-tune with their needs and body language you will be able to notice what is lacking in your relationship. When participating in each activity you can analyze what went well and what did not go well. For example, did your child respond well to the structure of the activity but feel overwhelmed and lack confidence by what was expected of him or her? As you begin to look at your relationship day to day and throughout activities and begin to dissect them, you will be able to better support your child and foster a nurturing, playful relationship and understand how to reflect and repair when challenges arise. You will see many activities demonstrated in these videos, but there are many more that you and your child can participate in together. Please reach out to our therapists for more education and support if needed.
*Note: These are actors in the four videos below. Consent was received prior to filming.*
The key aspect of structure is showing your child that you, as the parent, are the leader and are in charge. When demonstrating that you are the leader it is vital to display clarity, consistency, warmth, and playfulness as you help your child complete daily tasks and participate in fun activities. It may be difficult to maintain a structured relationship due to the child’s need for flexibility, their sensory needs causing impulsivity and neurodivergent children. Children who have undergone trauma can have a hard time letting the adult be the leader or the one in charge. This can happen because of many things but some of the more common reasons are because they grew up with a chaotic environment and that is what feels safe to him or her. Secondly the child may feel afraid to have another adult in charge because in the past when an adult or parent figure was in charge it was unpredictable, unresponsive, or disorganized. Therefore, trusting another adult is difficult and scary. When this happens, it is important that you as the parent remain calm and regulated yourself. When you are calm, regulated, and maintain a warm and playful approach you are then able to set up basic routines to meet the child’s basic needs, help regulate the child’s body, provide rhythm and sequence to activities, and create a safe environment. The amount of structure within a relationship will vary from family to family due to the specific needs of the child as well as the adult in charge. Just as children have their own needs in a relationship, adults do as well. It is okay if the structure looks different from person to person as long as it meets the needs of the child in each situation.
The key concept of nurture is to help your child feel safe and loved by providing calm, soothing, and quiet care for your child. A nurturing relationship with your child can look like calm words and touch that is accepted by the child, calm moments where you and your child can take care of a need together, attending to a need of your child when necessary, and an open conversation with your child where they feel comfortable to discuss any troublesome emotions or situations. Children may have difficulty accepting and developing a nurturing relationship with a parent because of their past experiences and trauma or sensory processing challenges. The child may have had limited or unpredictable opportunities to receive nurture or experienced it as overwhelming and/or painful. There are also conditions such as sensory processing disorder or ASD that impact a child’s ability to understand and express their preferences or their sensory needs may be a mismatch to their parents. In all of these cases, providing and experiencing success within the domain of nurture can be challenging for caregivers and their children. There are activities and everyday tasks that you and your child can participate in to work towards a nurturing relationship that involves you as that parent making them feel valued and cared for, reassured and calm, safe and predictable despite changing circumstances. Note, the child’s needs will change as they age. Therefore, being in tune with your child’s needs are imperative to providing a nurturing relationship.
The key concept of challenge is to help your child achieve success and mastery by setting appropriate expectations and finding the “just right” level of difficulty for your child to ensure their success without making it so easy they aren’t enjoyable, while providing support and encouragement. A relationship that involves challenge can include the parent introducing new experience’s and supporting the child by providing confidence. When these areas are present the parent will understand what the child is and isn’t capable of, detect when the child is stressed or overwhelmed, assist the child in focus and attention, and provide a “just right” challenge. A child may have difficulty when challenged due to past experiences causing him or her to miss out on key developmental stages and activities, the child was not cared for or their needs were not met at a young age, or there might have been a hospitalization at a young age, as well as other reasons. This may lead to reluctance to try new things, increased difficulty with new things, or a lower developmental age compared to chronological age. As you, the caregiver, continue to support the child’s natural instinct and exploration, support them in activities they do well as well as slightly extend their skills, and help them manage the stress that comes with hard or new experience’s, the child will begin to welcome the challenge and increase their skills. As you attempt to challenge your child, understand that expectations may be realistic in one situation or environment but unrealistic in another. This is something that you will learn about your child as the relationship strengthens and develops.
The key concept of engagement is demonstrating to your child that you, the caregiver, are in tune with and connected with the child. When demonstrating engagement, you have genuine and delightful moments, you are playful and productive, you are in tune with your child’s emotional state and can provide regulation when needed, you remain the leader, and you and your child feel a sense of synchrony. Your child may demonstrate difficulty with engagement due to the child’s passive personality, inability to focus on things for long periods of time, developmental delay or conditions, or sensory processing disorder. Children who have undergone trauma can have difficulty engaging with their caregiver due to past neglect. If the child was neglected as a young child or baby, they did not experience what it was like to be focused on or attended too. Therefore, when a caregiver attempts to engage it can make the child feel uncomfortable. It can also be difficult for the caregiver to participate in engaging activities with their child. As the caregiver it is important to take into consideration your childhood and current experience’s. You might not have had engaging parents or may withdraw from your child due to unforeseen circumstances in the present. When you are able to address your own circumstances, you can then provide engagement and connection with your child by creating brief moments of emotional connection, focusing on your child in a sensitive and soothing way, continuing to be in tune with your child’s emotions, and meeting your child’s needs. In doing this you will be able to share joined joy and attunement while also maintaining a playful approach. If you are participating in these activities and your child seems disinterested make sure your pacing is not too fast or too slow, and make your intentions clear by verbalizing your intentions, and potentially giving more or less choice or control. For example, if you notice that you are sitting too close or you put a sticker on an area and they remove it, withdraw, or attempt to end the activity. you can reply by saying “I am sitting pretty close to you and see that it makes you feel a little uneasy because (you’re wiggling or moved away), I will move over a little or put the sticker on your clothes instead of your skin, or start with your favorite animal” This can also be applied if putting the sticker in an uncomfortable position. Signs of disinterest or disengagement could include poor eye contact, eagerness to end activity, increased space between you and your child, less participation than expected, etc. If you notice these it may be helpful to first consider what it is you are asking of the child in the activity, is it realistic, what could be adjusted in the activity to meet the child's needs at that moment. It's okay to adjust the activities in the moment as long as it's discussed with the child and meets the needs.
Booth, P. B. & Jernberg, A. M. (2009). Theraplay: Helping parents and children build better relationships through attachment-based play. (3rdedition). Wiley.
Norris, W. & Lender, D. (2020). Theraplay: The practitioner’s guide. Jessica Kingsley Publishers.
Rodwell, H. & Norris, V. (2017). Parenting with theraplay: Understanding attachment and how to nurture a closer relationship with your child. Jessica Kingsley Publishers.
The adoption of a child is always a joyous moment in the life of a family. Some adoptions, though, present unique challenges. Welcoming these children into your family—and addressing their special needs—requires care, consideration, and compassion.
Written by two research psychologists specializing in adoption and attachment, The Connected Child will help you:
· Build bonds of affection and trust with your adopted child
· Effectively deal with any learning or behavioral disorders
· Discipline your child with love without making him or her feel threatened
Parenting under the best of circumstances can be difficult. And raising children who have come to your home from “hard places,” who have their own set of unique needs, brings even more challenges. You may have discovered that the techniques that worked with your birth children are not working with your adopted or foster child.
Renowned child-development expert Dr. Karyn Purvis gives you practical advice and powerful tools you can use to encourage secure attachment in your family. You will benefit from Karyn’s decades of clinical research and real-world experience. Coauthor Lisa Qualls demonstrates how you can successfully implement these strategies in your home, just as she did in hers.
You will learn how to simplify your approach using scripts, nurture your child, combat chronic fear, teach respect, and develop other valuable tools to facilitate a healing connection with your child. The Connected Parent will help you
lovingly guide your children and bring renewed hope and restoration to your family. caregivers to understand each child's needs and goals, using evidence-based interventions to promote progress.
Does your child exhibit...
Over-responsivity—or under-responsivity—to touch or movement? A child with SPD may be a "sensory avoider," withdrawing from touch, refusing to wear certain clothing, avoiding active games—or he may be a "sensory disregarder," needing a jump start to get moving.
Over-responsivity—or under-responsivity—to sounds, sights taste, or smell? She may cover her ears or eyes, be a picky eater, or seem oblivious to sensory cues.
Cravings for sensation? The "sensory craver" never gets enough of certain sensations, e.g., messy play, spicy food, noisy action, and perpetual movement.
Poor sensory discrimination? She may not sense the difference between objects or experiences—unaware of what she's holding unless she looks, and unable to sense when she's falling or how to catch herself.
Unusually high or low activity level? The child may be constantly on the go—wearing out everyone around him—or move slowly and tire easily, showing little interest in the world.
Problems with posture or motor coordination? He may slouch, move awkwardly, seem careless or accident-prone.
These are often the first clues to Sensory Processing Difference—a common but frequently misdiagnosed problem in which the central nervous system misinterprets messages from the senses. The Out-of-Sync Child offers comprehensive, clear information for parents and professionals—and a drug-free treatment approach for children.
This revised edition includes expanded information about SPD “look-alikes,” including Learning Disabilities, ADHD, and autism; about diagnosis and treatments; and about other topics.
The first accessible guide to examine Sensory Processing Disorder, The Out-of-Sync Child touched the hearts and lives of thousands of families. Carol Stock Kranowitz continues her significant work with this companion volume, which presents more than one hundred playful activities specially designed for kids with SPD.
Each activity in this inspiring and practical book is SAFE—Sensory-motor, Appropriate, Fun and Easy—to help develop and organize a child’s brain and body. Whether your child faces challenges with touch, balance, movement, body position, vision, hearing, smell, and taste, motor planning, or other sensory problems, this book presents lively and engaging ways to bring fun and play to everyday situations.
This revised edition includes new activities, along with updated information on which activities are most appropriate for children with coexisting conditions including Asperger’s and autism, and more.
A child’s brain is a mystifying thing, and this book is here to help parents and caregivers better understand that brain in order to address its individual struggles. This is a scientific, yet approachable examination of how a child’s brain grows and functions, so that you can help maximize its potential.
The authors explain—and make accessible—the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures. The “upstairs brain,” which makes decisions and balances emotions, is under construction until the mid-twenties. And especially in young children, the right brain and its emotions tend to rule over the logic of the left brain. No wonder kids throw tantrums, fight, or sulk in silence. By applying these discoveries to everyday parenting, you can turn any outburst, argument, or fear into a chance to integrate your child’s brain and foster vital growth.
Complete with age-appropriate strategies for dealing with day-to-day struggles and illustrations that will help you explain these concepts to your child, The Whole-Brain Child shows you how to cultivate healthy emotional and intellectual development so that your children can lead balanced, meaningful, and connected lives.
Parenting a teenager is tougher than ever, but new brain research offers new insight into the best way to connect with teens. With humor, wisdom and a deep understanding of the teenaged brain, noted teen expert Dr. Laura Kastner shows parents how to stay calm and cool-headed while dealing with hot-button issues everything from rude attitude and lying to sex and substance use -- with clear, easy-to-follow suggestions for setting limits while maintaining a close and loving relationship. Find out why Dr. T. Berry Brazelton calls Getting to Calm required reading for any parent who struggles with their teen!
In this completely revised edition Dr. Brazelton introduces new information on physical, emotional, and behavioral development. He also addresses the new stresses on families and fears of children, with a fresh focus on the role of fathers and other caregivers. This updated volume also offers new insights on prematurity, sleep patterns, early communication, toilet training, co-sleeping, play and learning, SIDS, cognitive development and signs of developmental delay, childcare, asthma, a child's immune system, and safety. Dr. Sparrow, Brazelton's co-author on several other books, brings a child psychiatrist's insights into the many perennial childhood issues covered in this comprehensive book.
We've all seen the happiness on the face of a child while playing in the school yard. Or the blissful abandon of a golden retriever racing across a lawn. This is the joy of play. By definition, play is purposeless, all-consuming, and fun. But as Dr. Stuart Brown illustrates, play is anything but trivial. It is a biological drive as integral to our health as sleep or nutrition. We are designed by nature to flourish through play.
Dr. Brown has spent his career studying animal behavior and conducting more than six-thousand "play histories" of humans from all walks of life-from serial murderers to Nobel Prize winners. Backed by the latest research, Play explains why play is essential to our social skills, adaptability, intelligence, creativity, ability to problem solve and more. Particularly in tough times, we need to play more than ever, as it's the very means by which we prepare for the unexpected, search out new solutions, and remain optimistic. A fascinating blend of cutting-edge neuroscience, biology, psychology, social science, and inspiring human stories of the transformative power of play, this book proves why play just might be the most important work we can ever do.
Do you know a child who struggles to get started with things or who resists trying something new? Maybe they argue or have trouble joining other kids in conversation and play. Do you hear yourself prompting your child again and again? Do you feel frustrated or stuck, and long for a better way - a more positive way - to engage your child while guiding them toward independence? This book was written for parents, caregivers, professionals and more - to guide you on how to move away from prompting and prodding kids - and toward authentic connections and competent roles. You'll learn how to create a positive learning environment for everyone, and feel empowered as you thoughtfully expand roles and responsibilities.
Theraplay® is an attachment-focused model of parenting that helps parents to understand and relate to their child. Based on a sequence of play activities that are rooted in neuroscience, Theraplay offers a fun and easy way for parents and children to connect. Theraplay is particularly effective with looked after and adopted children.
By providing an overview of Theraplay and the psychological principles that it is based on, parents and carers will gain an understanding of the basic theory of the model along with practical ideas for applying Theraplay to everyday family life. Through everyday case studies and easy language, parents will gain confidence and learn new skills for emotional bonding, empathy, and acceptance in the relationship with their child.
Theraplay-a pioneering application of attachment theory to clinical work—helps parents learn and practice how to provide the playful engagement, empathic responsiveness, and clear guidance that lead to secure attachment and lifelong mental health in their children. This third edition of the groundbreaking book Theraplay shows how to use play to engage children in interactions that lead to competence, self-regulation, self-esteem, and trust. Theraplay's relationship-based approach is uniquely designed to help families facing today's busy and often chaotic lifestyle challenges form joyful, loving relationships.
Autism therapy typically focuses on ridding individuals of “autistic” symptoms such as difficulties interacting socially, communication problems, sensory challenges, and repetitive behavior patterns. Now, this updated and expanded edition of Dr. Barry M. Prizant’s Uniquely Human tackles new language such as shifting from “person-first language” to “identity-first language,” diversity of identity in the autism sphere, and the future of autistic advocacy by amplifying the voices of autistic and neurodivergent individuals.
“A must-read for anyone touched by autism...Dr. Prizant’s Uniquely Human is a crucial step in promoting better understanding and a more humane approach” (Associated Press). Instead of classifying “autistic” behaviors as signs of pathology, Dr. Prizant sees them as part of a range of strategies to cope with a world that feels chaotic and overwhelming. Rather than curb these behaviors, it’s better to enhance abilities, build on strengths, and offer supports that will lead to more desirable behavior and a better quality of life.
Uniquely Human is a “brilliant” (Steve Silberman, author of NeuroTribes) approach to autism in the modern age that provides “common sense [and] practical advice” (Temple Grandin, author of The Autistic Brain) drawn from Dr. Prizant’s four-decade career. It conveys a deep respect for people with autism and their own unique qualities. Filled with humanity and wisdom, Uniquely Human “should reassure parents and caregivers of kids with autism and any other disability that their kids are not broken, but, indeed, special (Booklist, starred review).
Sensory Processing Disorder is an increasingly common diagnosis, with a wide range of symptoms that can be difficult for parents and pediatricians to identify. In Sensational Kids, internationally renowned expert Dr. Miller shares her more than forty years of experience and research findings on SPD. Now in its fourteenth printing, with more than 50,000 copies sold in all formats, it is an authoritative and practical guide to understanding and treating this little-understood condition.
Newly updated, this revised edition will include the latest research on SPD's relationship to autism, as well as new treatment options and coping strategies for parents, teachers, and others who care for kids with SPD. Other topics include:
The signs and symptoms of SPD
Its four major subtypes
How the disorder is diagnosed and treated sensory strategies to help SPD kids develop, learn and succeed, in school and in life.
Many people struggle with sensory processing difficulties. Regulating emotions, knowing when to eat, drink, go to the toilet, and feeling your breathing and heart rate all depend on our internal awareness. Interoception is critical to feel and understand what is going on inside of your body. However, when someone has difficulty processing interoception, knowledge of emotions and regulation of basic body functions can be interrupted causing great frustration.
This book contains all you need to know about interoception including the most recent research. Easy to read explanations followed by helpful ideas you can use immediately after reading, make the book an invaluable addition to your collection. Each activity is carefully chosen for both adults and children and will counteract poor interoceptive awareness.
If you're a foster or adoptive parent, family caregiver, social worker, or professional supporting children who have experienced trauma, you may have felt confused and overwhelmed at some point. It may seem like typical parenting and strategies just don't work.
Children from difficult life situations can experience bewildering emotional and behavioural challenges. Often current approaches to help these kids are fragmented and ineffective. However, when we understand how trauma can affect the developing brain and adopt strategies that are complex trauma focused, we can turn these kids' lives around.
Children and Complex Trauma: A Roadmap for Healing and Recovery presents simple, practical, and proven strategies - based around the Complex Care and Intervention Program. This approach, fine-tuned in well over 300 challenging cases, and supported by compelling outcome data, will help you answer questions like:
- Why does my child act like this?
- What do I need to understand about how these children's brains work?
- How can I help a child heal from past traumatic experiences?
- What proven strategies can help a child manage their big emotions?
There is a powerful message of hope in these pages and the case stories will forever transform how you understand and support children. It's also a roadmap for necessary changes in practices and policies across our systems so that we can help children heal from their pasts.
It is soooooo hard for children to accept "no!" Parents frequently experience whining, back-talk and defiance when they deny their child's request. Children can learn to accept "no" smoothly by practicing and understanding the concept of "accepting no." While living on his own, little stray Doggie was able to do whatever he pleased and was never told "no." On a cold snowy day he was invited to live with a family in a warm cozy home. Doggie was told "no" many times as he learned the rules of the household! This darling book includes Parenting Tips for Parents and facilitates your child's ability to understand the concept of "accepting no."
Dex has the sweetest heart and the roughest touch. He breaks his toys, has difficulty with personal space, and has an energy level that idles on high! Dex deeply desires to play with a family of baby birds, but his request is denied until he can learn to be gentle and kind. Join this misunderstood dragon as he creatively learns how to have a gentle touch. It's Tough to Be Gentle: A Dragon's Tale, helps children understand the gentle and kind concept and the Teaching Tips for Parents provides parents with information on how they can empathize with a child similar to Dex.
Elly’s ears won’t grow because she is so scared! Little elephants with small ears can get into all kinds of trouble when they can’t hear their parents instructions. Find out how Elly’s parents learn to help her feel safe so her ears can grow. The Elephant with Small Ears teaches the concept of “listening and minding” to your child while reminding parents about the importance of connecting with children to help them feel safe. Reading The Elephant with Small Ears with your child will help you and your child understand the importance of how traditional parenting techniques are not effective with children from hard places.
Do you have a bossy child at home or a child obsessed with control? Professionals know that children become controlling when they are afraid. Parents who don't know this spend all their energy fighting for control and are left feeling frustrated, angry and confused. Baby Owl Lost Her Whoo teaches children WHY they need to let go of control. When left to manage on her own, Baby Owl freezes in the cold, eats only sweets and forgets to brush her beak!
Sweet little penguin was separated from all that was familiar to him. This left him sad and confused. He began to be disrespectful to all those around him because his heart was filled with hurt. In this tender book, Penguin goes in search of a pet to love and love him back. He befriends a beautiful fish who takes him on a journey of healing as he discovers what it means to show respect to himself and others. Penguin and the Fine-Looking Fish will help teach your children the importance of showing respect and gets to the heart of why this concept is vital to engaging in healthy relationships.
Sweet little Roo is full of energy and excitement which is more than fine when he is playing outside. But, when Roo is asked to sit still, be quiet and keep his hands to himself at school he runs into some not-so-fun trouble. Discover how Roo's teachers find creative solutions to helping Roo succeed in an environment that was not built for his energetic level of exploration. Reading The Redo Roo will help you and your child replace, time-outs, lectures and consequences with the "redo" parenting technique and help empower you to succeed.
Zoey and Her Amazing Energy Bubble was written to help children understand how their thoughts, emotions, and felt sensations cause their energy levels to change. Zoey’s Grandma Rosie teaches Zoey and her brother Milo about energy bubbles, which change in size and color. They learn about how the size of their energy bubble can cause other people to feel a certain way when they are around them, especially when the bubble gets very big. Grandma Rosie then teaches them about the energy bubble dial, which can be used to make their energy bubble smaller or bigger, depending on the situation.
One day, Color Monster wakes up feeling very confused. His emotions are all over the place; he feels angry, happy, calm, sad, and scared all at once! To help him, a little girl shows him what each feeling means through color. As this adorable monster learns to sort and define his mixed up emotions, he gains self-awareness and peace as a result. Everyone will enjoy sharing this concept book that taps into both socio-emotional growth and color concepts in a simple, friendly way.
Feelings can be complicated, and learning to express them is a skill that must be developed. My Mixed Emotions is here to coach children through a variety of emotions and situations including dealing with bullying, understanding grief, and coping with large family changes, such as divorce.
Divided into happiness, fear, anger, and sadness, My Mixed Emotions explores the four main emotions, the reasons why we feel them, and the science behind each one. Children will discover great things about themselves, such as what happens in their brain when they are happy, why they cry when they are sad, and why they sometimes feel nervous.
On days when your faith is shaken, remember...
A seed falls to the ground. A child moves away from home. Can life bloom in a new place?
With gentle storytelling and poetic language, Joanna Rowland explores what it means to have hope—hope that things will get better, hope that you are cared for even when things are hard, and hope that new growth is waiting to burst forth, just around the corner.
In this book, you'll discover:
· Engaging visuals explaining brain cell and nervous system basics
· The surprising role of our eight senses - yes, there are more than five!
· Differences between the two brain "teams" and the ways they impact behavior
· Proven strategies for helping our rational "upstairs brain" run the show
· Simple brain-boosting ideas for all ages ...and much more!
Jam-packed with insights for kids and helpful guidance for adults, this "user's manual for the brain" is sure to become a go-to resource in your home, classroom, or therapy office.
Along with a diverse cast of characters, author and intrepid guide, "Ms. Jessica," transforms complex neuroscience into fun graphics, simple metaphors, and practical solutions for students ages 7 and up.
Help deepen your child’s ability to become a body detective & discover more ways to help your child self-regulate &
get excited about their bodies! This rhyming book explores the journey of emotions & the Vagus Nerve's role in bringing balance back to the body, making it both fun & informative for children & families! Walk through this interactive book with your children today!
Join Little Gorilla and his dad as they adventure through the jungle of emotions that can arise in life’s ordinary moments. In this beautifully hand-drawn social-emotional growth book written by Danielle Jones, children and parents will be delighted to find a new way to approach anger, upset, anxiety, grief, loss, and disappointment. Readers will learn how to stretch their own Disappointment Muscles as they journey through life with Little Gorilla and his dad.
What can you do when your feelings get the best of you?
The students at Sunnyvale Elementary carry a lot in their backpacks - including some things you can't see quite so well, like big feelings and confusing emotions.
Today, one fiery red book keeps spilling out and exploding onto everyone: ANGER! It's time for the kids to use their best detective skills to figure out what's underneath those angry feelings.
Ana feels HURT when her friends don't play fair.
Ben feels EMBARRASSED when he makes a mistake.
Grace feels DIFFERENT when nobody chooses her for their team.
When our feelings get the best of us, we need to do our best with our feelings. Become a backpack detective like Ana, Ben, and Grace!
A little Dinosaur gets annoyed easily, sometimes for no reason at all!
This fun picture book opens a lot of opportunities to talk about emotions and feelings. Based on self-regulation theory, this is a story that helps to let their feelings out in a healthy way. Children will learn how to breathe through anger and frustration, to be able to think before acting, to be mindful. It's perfect for preschoolers ages 3 to 5, parents, teachers and anyone who works with kids.
*Anger is a normal, healthy emotion.
*It's OK to feel angry but it's not OK to hit.
*How to control your actions when you feel angry
*Talk about ways to resolve conflict peacefully
In The Not-So-Friendly Friend, children will learn an easy and practical lesson about how to firmly and assertively – yet kindly – stand up for themselves in the face of a bully. By teaching children about the importance and value of setting boundaries for healthy friendships, this book provides children the tools they need to foster their social confidence and emotional well-being.
Sun Kisses, Moon Hugs is a beautiful new book with a simple but powerful message: love lasts forever. Lyrical writing and delightful illustrations provide perfect bedtime reading for any child. The book is also ideal for supporting children through grief, separation anxiety, divorce, illness or other traumatic situations, by wrapping them in a warm and comforting emotional security blanket and opening a dialogue on the nature of love. Even when loved ones cannot be with us, we can feel their presence through our deep connections to the natural world. Sun Kisses, Moon Hugs has received glowing testimonials from parents, librarians, social workers, teachers, hospice caregivers...and most importantly, kids.
Annabel dreams of one day being a scientist, but teasing from other kids at school has hurt her confidence and left her feeling sad and alone. Join her as she learns how to use the Magical Tapping Technique to quickly release her sadness and regain her confidence. Through the book, you’ll learn about the scientifically proven technique commonly known as "Tapping" and how you can use it for both yourself and your child to overcome stress, anxiety, negative emotions, and much more. Your child will love the fun descriptions and illustrations for each point, such as the Super Eagle Eye Point, Lion Cry Point, Dragon Fire Point, Wolf Point, and more. Your child will be having a blast as they howl, hug, thump on their chest, act like a monkey, and more . . . all while learning how they can use Tapping to help themselves in real life!
Help your little one unlock their inner courage!
Riley the Brave is the story of a little bear with big feelings! Join this super-cool, cape-wearing cub as he embarks on a journey to face his fears.
Riley is joined by all of his animal friends who care for him as he faces his difficult feelings. Along the way, Riley learns how sometimes, being tough or loud isn't the bravest thing to be - sometimes it's asking for help, or being brave enough to let someone into your heart.
Written for any child who is looking to unlock their inner courage, and particularly those healing from difficult life experiences or trauma, this book creates a safe space for conversations about complex thoughts and feelings. It also features an educational afterword for grown-ups which explains how the book helps children, and how to get the most out of it.
Like us, adults, kids have a wide range of feelings. They get happy, jealous, disgusted, angry, nervous, sad, proud, worried, and excited. But at a very young age, they simply don't possess the vocabulary to express their feelings verbally. They express their feelings through tantrums, mimicry, physical movements, and gestures. These expressions are often sweet and funny, but sometimes they just drive us nuts!
This book will help you explain to your kids that emotions, that is signals they get from their bodies, are linked to feelings. These feelings, whether positive or negative, are all perfectly fine, but they can be expressed differently.
This book will also expand your children's vocabulary by offering them different words to express their feelings with.
And finally, the book offers hands-on activities for hours of entertainment after reading.
Helping children to understand, identify and express what they need is key to emotional self-regulation!
That's because needs and feelings go together. When a need isn't met, difficult feelings arise. On the other hand, when children's physical and emotional needs are consistently met, they thrive.
Needs and feelings aren't good or bad. They're parts of us we need to pay attention to.
Sometimes I Need... encourages children to do that by checking in with their hearts, minds, and bodies.
Sometimes I need movement-- to jump, dance, or run. I'm squirmy and silly. It all feels so fun.
Sometimes I need quiet. I'm done. It's too loud. I settle in stillness away from the crowd.
As children become more mindful of their physical and emotional needs, they're better able to communicate them and are empowered to find strategies to get them met, especially as they get older.
Sometimes I Need... is a lyrical, engaging, vibrantly illustrated picture book. It's a wonderful addition to your home or school social-emotional library!
Join Neuro & the Ception Force Friends on their journeys through Vagal Valley where you will learn about how your body and brain communicate to help you stay safe and regulated, becoming your very own body detective!
"Being Human: a Polyvagal informed story about the states of the nervous system presents imagery of the felt sense of emotions, PLAYful regulation techniques, and 3 kid friendly body scans. The concepts in this book are adapted from the brilliant work of Dr. Stephen Porges and Deb Dana.
Teaching kids to be calm and cool with life's challenges becomes much easier when they learn they have choices in handling their emotions.
Some Days I Flip My Lid follows third-grader Max as he develops self-awareness of his emotions by learning Mindfulness techniques called MINDFUL BREATHING and BREATHING ON PURPOSE. At school, on the playground and at home, Max develops skills not to flip his lid when he is scared, worried, sad or upset. A colorful and delightful story for the classroom, at bedtime or whenever your child needs a mindful reminder to be a calm, cool kid.
BONUS material for educators, parents and caregivers includes step-by-step instructions for teaching Mindful Breathing.
You Have Feelings All the Time serves as a reminder that emotions are a healthy, normal part of life. Some of those feelings are big and some are quiet. Some feel good and others can feel uncomfortable—and that’s okay. Written from the perspective of a caring adult speaking to a child, this charming book helps young children build an emotional vocabulary.
You Have Feelings All the Time is an affirming and supportive book about children’s many different feelings. It helps preschoolers develop emotional literacy by naming and normalizing emotions. Strong emotions can scare or overwhelm kids, and helping them see that everyone feels mad, sad, or scared sometimes can comfort them and build their perspective-taking skills and their emotional vocabulary.
Its charming rhyme and heartwarming message make the book perfect for storytime, home, the preschool classroom, and whenever children need help building an emotional vocabulary.
What makes happy and confident adults?
Resilient children—children who believe in their competences, connect to people around them, are secure in their individuality, believe that their actions matter, are able to cope with their emotions and stay in control.
Resilient kids do not collapse because they feel disappointed, frustrated, or angry. They consider negative feelings not as a dead end, but rather an obstacle they can overcome. They can turn their negative emotions around to make them work toward their goals. Dealing with Feelings will give these skills to your children.
The book contains engaging short stories about two friends who get into all sorts of real-life situations. They get disappointed, sad, jealous, envious, humiliated, shy, ashamed, scared, offended, and angry. Their wise parents and their desire to stay friends teaches them to deal with these seemingly negative emotions and to find positive aspects about them.
Following the short stories are the activity pages to allow kids to look at these feelings from their personal perspective and to develop regulating strategies that work for them. Ideal for teaching self-regulation skills in early childhood education.
In this interactive book, readers learn a positive message about neurodiversity. In Wonderfully Wired, cartoon brain characters show that everyone has different wires in their brain! The story's characters, Priya, Lou, and Jalen each have their own dance move because of these wires. They "speed hop," "slow flow," and "dynamic disco". At school, different strategies help each of them be successful - Priya, Lou, and Jalen will show readers these strategies. Plus they will show readers what they are really great at doing. This book was written by occupational therapy practitioners. It is based on evidence-based school support and has incorporated feedback from people of a variety of ages, abilities, and backgrounds, as well as universal design for learning (UDL) principles.
Are there children in your life who are experiencing the pain of their parents' divorce? This book will help give advice and information in a gentle and sensitive way. It will help children face their fears, worries and questions when the family is going through a break-up.
Parents, teachers, and gift givers will find:
· Language that is simple, direct, and easier for younger children to understand
· Information about a divorce in my family
· A helpful book written by a psychotherapist and counselor
· A whole series of books for children to explore emotional issues
"Parents looking for a book about separation or divorce will find few offerings as positive, matter-of-fact, or child-centered as this one. . . . Simple, yet profoundly satisfying." — Booklist (starred review)
At Mommy’s house, Alex has a soft chair. At Daddy’s house, Alex has a rocking chair. In each home, Alex also has a special bedroom and lots of friends to play with. But whether Alex is with Mommy or with Daddy, one thing always stays the same — Alex is loved. The gently reassuring text focuses on what is gained rather than what is lost when parents divorce, while the sensitive illustrations, depicting two unique homes in all their small details, firmly establish Alex’s place in both of them. Two Homes will help children — and parents — embrace even the most difficult of changes with an open and optimistic heart.
A worn pressure cooker and a sweet little pot learn new ways of dealing with difficult feelings.
Meet the Potts. Holdin Pott grew up learning to keep in feelings of sadness and anger. He is one tough pressure cooker. Little Pott is watching and wants to be just like him, but when you’re little and the heat is on really high, it’s hard to keep the lid on and hold tough stories and feelings inside. What will Little Pott do? How will Holdin Pott help him?
From the team that created Once I Was Very Very Scared and You Weren’t With Me, comes a new story to help children and grown-ups start difficult conversations and snuggle in closer together.
How do dinosaurs say good night? Brimming with humor and familiar good-night antics, here is a playful peek into the homes of dinosaur children and their parents at bedtime. Perfect for sharing and reading aloud, this is one nighttime book your own little dinosaur will want to read again and again.
The TBRI® Podcast features conversations about Trust-Based Relational Intervention®, an attachment-based, trauma-informed intervention designed to meet the complex needs of vulnerable children.
On this podcast we talk about the elements of trauma-informed care and chat with experts in the field about implementing TBRI® across different communities of care and practice.
Formerly the Parenting after Trauma podcast, internationally recognized children's mental health expert Robyn Gobbel decodes the most baffling behaviors for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems. If you're parenting a child who has experienced trauma or toxic stress or a child with a neuroimmune disorder, sensory processing, or
Formerly the Parenting after Trauma podcast, internationally recognized children's mental health expert Robyn Gobbel decodes the most baffling behaviors for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems. If you're parenting a child who has experienced trauma or toxic stress or a child with a neuroimmune disorder, sensory processing, or other nervous system vulnerability, this show will let you know you are not alone. You can stop playing behavior whack-a-mole because Robyn offers you tools that actually work. You can become your child's expert, feel more confident as a parent, and bring more connection and clarity into your family. Educators, therapists, coaches and consultants- you too can learn all about what behavior really is and become more effective at helping the families you support. You can love your work again.
The Empowered Parent Podcast is the official podcast of One Big Happy Home. We want to equip parents how to empower their children and build healthy relationships in order to see lasting change in behaviors and thrive as a family.
This podcast is for anyone who is parenting kids through adoption, foster care, kinship care, or those who are
The Empowered Parent Podcast is the official podcast of One Big Happy Home. We want to equip parents how to empower their children and build healthy relationships in order to see lasting change in behaviors and thrive as a family.
This podcast is for anyone who is parenting kids through adoption, foster care, kinship care, or those who are in the process. This podcast is for anyone who has kids who have experienced trauma. This podcast is for families of all kinds. This podcast is also for professionals who serve families and want more tools to help their families succeed.
The Empowered to Connect Podcast a place where we come together to discuss an attachment rich, healing centered approach to engagement and well being for ourselves, our families and our communities.
Join parenting coach and mom-in-the-trenches, Penny Williams, as she helps parents, caregivers, and educators harness the realization that we are all beautifully complex and marvelously imperfect. Each week she delivers insights and actionable strategies on parenting and educating neurodivergent kids — those with ADHD, autism, anxiety, le
Join parenting coach and mom-in-the-trenches, Penny Williams, as she helps parents, caregivers, and educators harness the realization that we are all beautifully complex and marvelously imperfect. Each week she delivers insights and actionable strategies on parenting and educating neurodivergent kids — those with ADHD, autism, anxiety, learning disabilities... Her approach to decoding behavior while honoring neurodiversity and parenting the individual child you have will provide you with the tools to help you understand and transform behavior, reduce your own stress, increase parenting confidence, and create the joyful family life you crave. Penny has helped thousands of families worldwide to help their kids feel good so they can do good.
This is a virtual community and support group for parents and/or caregivers of kiddos who are going through difficult times. This platform offers an online forum to communicate with other parents and a team of coaches, a video library with mini courses, a live masterclass that covers one parent topis each class, and the ability to ask Robin Gobbel questions on a live virtual session.
This club requires a monthly $45 subscription that you can join at any time as well as leave at any time It is based on your needs as a parent and/or caregiver.
Foster and Adoptive families are invited to attend to receive support and education and build connections with others who share similar experiences through Post Adoption Resource Center. Share your joys, challenges, ideas, and experiences with others who truly understand!
Date: First Monday of every month
Time: 6:30pm – 8:30pm
Location: Hybrid – Zoom: https://us06web.zoom.us/j/95892532671 or in person which can be found by emailing PARC_5@judsoncenter.org.
Our support groups are set up to meet that need for adoptive families. Groups are facilitated by an Adoptive Parent Consultant and are parent led. They also use the North American Council on Adoptable Children’s guide for nurturing adoptive parent groups and the Circle of Parents® model for groups.
We also provide help finding additional adoptive parent support groups in the state. Use the map to find a comprehensive county-by-county listing of foster, adoptive, and kinship support groups across Michigan.
Come connect with other dads, be encouraged, vent and just be yourself at this DADS ONLY online group. We will read or listen to the audio book, From Fear to Love by Bryan Post. This book provides new and highly effective techniques for parents dealing with behavioral challenges.
Group will be led by adoptive Parent, Todd Patrick.7:30-9:00 P.M 2nd Tuesday each month
* Group Sponsored in part by Family Bound.
This is an Instagram profile created and run by a child therapist and parent of three, Jessica Grace. This resource is full of advice and resources surrounding discipline, body safety, sensitive kids, boundaries, worry, effective activities for your kid’s development, and many more. While learning new techniques to try with your children, you are also seeing real life examples in Jessica’s life.
Occupational therapist and mom of two, bringing play ideas for kids & adults of all ages and ability levels. We believe Black lives matter, play has no gender, children deserve respect as full human beings, kids do well if they can, and play is the thing!This is a private group on Facebook, but you are able to join. If you are interested the page will have you answer a few simple questions prior to allowing you to join the group.
This group is for foster and adoptive parents from south west Michigan to share thoughts, ideas and resources. This group also has members that are trained professionals such as occupational therapists, social workers, and more. This allows for not only peer support but also professional support and opinions.
This is a private group on Facebook, but you are able to join. If you are interested the page will have you answer a few simple questions prior to allowing you to join the group.
This is an evidence-based interprofessional care facility that focus on those that have or are experiencing trauma, toxic stress, chronic disability, neurodevelopmental disorders, and/or addictions. On this site you will find resources such as Caregiver Co-Regulation Coaching, which is a one on one session virtually with a trained occupational therapist to discuss goals and activities that will help you, the caregiver of a child who has experienced trauma, problem solve behaviors that have been impeding on functionality within the home. There are also trauma assessments, psych evaluations and treatment, and music therapy.
Blog run by Dr. Michelle Suarez PhD, OTR/L. In this blog there are techniques and articles shared on how to assist your child who has undergone trauma.
KALMAR (pronounced “Calmer”) is a tool to help identify therapeutic activities and approaches that are most likely to have positive outcomes based on observations made by caregivers. The theory for the tool is based on work by Dr. Bruce Perry and his NMT model from ChildTrauma Academy as well as the TBRI method from The Karyn Purvis Institute for Child Development.
When visiting the website you will find a quiz where you can input information about your child. This information does not get saved. Therefore if wanting to access in the future you will need to re-enter the information again.
The hand model of the brain is a great way to begin to understand how the brain works and what it means when your child 'flips their lid.' With an explanation of how the brain works we can then begin addressing the regulation and needs of the child before correcting and reasoning with the child.
This is a list of individuals, mostly Western Michigan University students, who are interested in helping out the families at the clinic by providing babysitting, home up-keep, transportation, or other services when needed. If interested in this resource please communicate that to our therapist or fill out our contact form and we would be happy to share that information with you.
Here are some resources that go into depth on what an IEP and a 504 are and how they might be able to help your child at school. These resources only provide so much information. Therefore, if you have further questions please reach out to our office and we can assist you further.
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